tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post7669441484263518858..comments2023-11-03T09:15:22.062+00:00Comments on Not Even a Bag of Sugar: What's the Difference - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder v Post Natal DepressionKykareehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00316100979546486127noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-17402574967844574422012-01-19T22:36:49.024+00:002012-01-19T22:36:49.024+00:00Wow thanks for sharing this story. I had pnd and c...Wow thanks for sharing this story. I had pnd and can relate to some of it but a lot of it i cannot. I think I would be quite scared in some of those situations. xhannahnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-11247447923107764302011-10-11T19:06:57.211+01:002011-10-11T19:06:57.211+01:00Yes, its interesting how the brain works, some bra...Yes, its interesting how the brain works, some brains respond to trauma in a healthy way, like yours seemingly did, then others don't. I am glad you didn't go on to get full blown PTSDKylie Hodgeshttp://notevena.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-21711787654448044862011-10-11T10:49:47.612+01:002011-10-11T10:49:47.612+01:00Very interesting post. There but for the grace of ...Very interesting post. There but for the grace of god go I. After a 4 day labour ending in an emergency c-section, there were some very bad nights, and some flashbacks when I saw my c-section scar. But I didn't go on to develop full-blown PTSD.Ruth Jenkinsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-4655528077256588002011-10-09T19:28:02.596+01:002011-10-09T19:28:02.596+01:00Thank you for sharing, and its great that we can t...Thank you for sharing, and its great that we can talk about it, too often we think "keep calm and carry on" is the way to go, but other traumatic experiences are so much better dealt with than child birth, and it can be traumatic for all sorts of reasons, not just due to prematurity.Kylie Hodgeshttp://notevena.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-24270046308790129272011-10-09T19:26:50.952+01:002011-10-09T19:26:50.952+01:00Delayed onset is completely normal. When you have ...Delayed onset is completely normal. When you have a new baby you just have to get on with it, often its only when things have settled down that it hits you. <br /><br />What happened to you is horrible. Mine is different as the actual delivery bit was fine, I was well prepared, had seen a member of the neonatal unit and a paediatrician and was very well versed in what would happen. It was the aftermath that was so traumatic, the not knowing whether my baby would live or die, the daily agony of seeing my baby hooked up to machines and enduring tests.<br /><br />I think its important you try and find help, so that you can be in a good psychological position to go again.Kylie Hodgeshttp://notevena.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-69688340254610170472011-10-09T18:51:52.765+01:002011-10-09T18:51:52.765+01:00I suffered terriBly with post traumatic stress dis...I suffered terriBly with post traumatic stress disorder after my second daughter was born. Different circumstances brought it on to yours but horrific nightmares, unable to go to the supermarket, even walking down a busy street would put the fear of god in me. I rowed with my husband for no reason and I felt everyone was against me. I had councilling for 6 months. It helped me to put the whole experience into perspective and to stop blaming myself for what had brought to me that place. In a way I am thankful I endoured it, it shaped me into the person I am today, I do have moments now where I feel I can't cope but now with 3 daughters and a small business I just take myself aside and put it into perspective. Counselling taught me how to manage my emotions and that in itself has helped over the last 5 years.<br />It's good to see women talking so openly about it, it seems we are all to scared to admit our flaws.<br />Great post :) I'll stop waffling now xLizipantsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-6297800288480131072011-10-09T18:34:13.352+01:002011-10-09T18:34:13.352+01:00This is a fascinating read for me.
The Boy was b...This is a fascinating read for me. <br /><br />The Boy was born 'naturally' under traumatic circumstances. His heart-rate fluctuated from 80-200, always dropping during a contraction (which they said was opposite to what it should do) and they waited for 3 hours between first being concerned & ripping him out of me. I said 'ripping' because he had shoulder distocia (it was stuck in my pubic bone) and when they finally got my 10lb 5 & half oz baby out, they had misplaced the forceps; one was over his eye & he had a cut at the corner of one eye, and cut & dent in his forehead. I had a grade 2 episiotomy & further grade 2 tear which they mis-stitched (it later broke down, I had an infection, ripped the stitches out when I fell down the stairs, and had to heal naturally). The Boy needed oxygen because he was slightly purple. His temperature was also 33 degrees, so he needed to be in an incubator for four hours.<br /><br />Twelve hours later he was taken to see the paediatrician as he had a yellowish patch behind his ears. Guess what, turns out he had an infection from the forceps and was on an IV antibiotic drip for 3 days. My perfect newborn was cut, bruised, dented, infected by that hospital & it's horrendous doctors. <br /><br />Three weeks later he returned there unconscious having had a reaction to the formula he'd just started (http://www.theboyandme.co.uk/2010/12/21/breast-v-formula-feeding/)<br /><br />I often think I might have a little PTSD from this month of trauma. I want another child but am petrified. I've already told my doctor that I will not set foot in that hospital again & that I want a C-Section. However, I'm terrified that I won't be able to deliver him into this world safely. When I have to move for an ambulance, my heart races, eyes fill and I start hyperventilating. I'm petrified of breast-feeding because of the experience described in that link. However, this has all only started this year.<br /><br />I'm sorry, I've waffled.The Boy and Mehttp://twitter.com/TheBoyandMenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-85004325570605736622011-10-09T16:40:37.667+01:002011-10-09T16:40:37.667+01:00My GP was awesome, absolutely reassuring, matter o...My GP was awesome, absolutely reassuring, matter of fact and so lovely. If your in the position to look at private treatment I can recommend the (mad as a box of frogs) counsellor I saw, he was so helpful.Kylie Hodgeshttp://notevena.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2098377761995034171.post-12077694412449905062011-10-09T16:23:03.703+01:002011-10-09T16:23:03.703+01:00Thanks for sharing Kylie. What you went through so...Thanks for sharing Kylie. What you went through sounds a lot like how I was feeling after Luka was born, only it took me so long to bond with him. I did the motherly stuff because it was ingrained and not because I felt it. I too suspected ante-natal depression but I never shared my fears with anyone because I had Eva and I didn't want people to be concerned that I wasn't going to cope with another child. When my doctor diagnosed PND Luka was 8 months. He reeled off a list of symptoms which didn't fit and I left feeling so upset and angry. I have never since asked a medical professional for help in dealing with what happened and now I fear that it will bite me soon. The nghtmares are coming back and each time the new baby kicks, I'm reminded of the dark days of last time. I need to find a dr who I can trust to take me seriously and not just tell me I should be grateful my baby is alive. I don't feel as though they understand but your story gives me hope that there must be a doctor out there who will. So thanks again for sharing this. I feel a post of my own coming on, plus an appointment with a different doctor. XxXghostwritermummynoreply@blogger.com