I come from a family of two children, there is my sister and me (well I do have a half brother and a late half sister but they were adults on the other side of the world when we were born). My husband has a sister. I don't see her often, but I love my sister and my world would be a much poorer place if it wasn't for her.
By the time I reached my thirties I had grown used to the idea that I might never have children, the main cause being poor relationship choices and some unspecified gynaecological problems, and some miscarriages. When we got married, Corey and I were realistic, we hoped there might be children in our future, but were prepared that there might not be.
What I wasn't prepared for was only having one. This is probably incredibly erroneous, but my view of a "normal" family is two parents and two children. They don't have to be opposite genders (the parents that is) but the nuclear family to me is four. Now this is purely my own prejudice obviously, I am not saying anything outside this is not the norm.
I worry about Joseph not having siblings. I know its not the be all and end all, but I worry he will have no playmate at home. I worry that he will be over indulged. I worry about getting older and that Joseph will have no one to share the burden of ageing parents with. I worry he will be lonely. I worry he will have no one to share his childhood memories with. And I haven't got my head around it at all.
I think I'd be less worried if he lived in the same country as his cousins, but he's not going to grow up with them at all, and that makes me sad too. His life is so much different than the one I grew up with, and the one my husband grew up with too, our lives were full of extended family.
And yet, there are advantages to having an only child, and I wonder if there are advantages being an only child. Are you an only child? Have you made (or had it made for you) the decision to only have one child? I'd love to hear your thoughts.